today i went by my old house to check on things and fill the fish pond. i hadn't been there in a week or so and it's always a treat to see what the neighbors have lifted off our property in the interim. this time however it wasn't the neighbors (i think everything has already been taken that's not tied down), but rather the bank.
we're slated for foreclosure next week barring the miracle of a buyer or the megaball in friday's drawing. i've resigned myself to that possibility over the past six months as i watched my realtor drop the price and drop the price and drop the price and still nobody, not a single soul, even coming to see it; let alone making an offer. but today when i showed up at the house i was not expecting to see that the bank had jumped the gun a bit. i found two of the three locks changed. the utilities (which i'm still paying for) turned off. and the house officially 'winterized'. gee thanks mr. mortgage company.
apparently they are in a goddamn hurry. and now their hurry has killed my fish and spoiled the food i still had in the freezer.
i do plan to set them straight in the morning, for what it's worth. that house is still mine and they have no business changing the locks or even stepping foot in there until that's not the case.
after that fun discovery at the house i went for a run at the park, mega's leash around my waist and her relentless hurry motivating me over the hills and around the strolling pedestrians. i corrected her too, as i wanted a jog rather than a sprint.
on the way from the park to pick up todd at taekwondo i saw a man drive away from a gas pump and take the hose with him. it ripped right out of the machine still in his truck's gas tank. apparently he was in a hurry. seems to be going around, sort of like the back-to-school-cold.
i have a close friend who's found herself in a different kind of hurry. rushing a relationship to maturity before its time. it's caused her some heartache and my heart has broken in empathy over the past week.
slow down.
slow down, my friend.
slow down, my pet.
slow down, my bank.
slow down, strangers in your cars.
our days are so full this fall. the boys have earlier school alarms and later bed times. in between there are more lessons and practices and homework. i have more varied obligations and passions. and though the agenda is multiplying, the hours are not.
and even so, i'm choosing to slow down. each minute, even when there aren't enough, is felt more tangibly and deliciously when i don't hurry it away. i am reminded of this tonight. the air is crisp. the windows are open. fall is leisurely rolling in. this season between the scorching and the freezing is nature's reminder to me that there's no need to hurry.
d: less hurry
b: more delicious minutes
g: fall's reminder
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Saturday, September 18, 2010
vroom
vroom. tonight my mind is racing and i'm trying hard to keep up.
todd has a friend over and the only thing that they've found to entertain themselves with is some abduction role play; to which i've now put a firm foot down upon. the sound of falling bodies, hysterical laughter, and the ensuing eruption of ferocious barking bedlam quickly alerted me that i needed to intervene. now they're playing some sort of game which involves a buzzer, but even that's preferable to the whispers of 'we need more duct tape' that i heard half an hour ago.
vroom.
on my last road trip with the boys they spent a good hour or two asking me 'this or that' questions about high priced sports cars. the questions went something like, 'bugati or aston martin?' to which i'd reply, 'umm, can i see pictures?' then they'd google up some photos on my phone and i'd carefully choose, 'the red one.'
my education on two seater cars that reach stupid high speeds in milliseconds and cost stupid high dollars hasn't been very thorough, i have to admit. but really, i haven't noticed. currently driving the sportiest car i've ever even considered, a mustang; i spend more time daydreaming about an outback station wagon with four doors and all wheel drive than a bigger engine and less seats.
but i do try to take note of things that show up in my life and today has been strangely synchronistic on this topic.
this morning at luke's soccer game todd and i were eavesdropping on the parents sitting on his other side. it was hard not to because in between the 'great shot max!' cheers, one of the fathers was waxing poetic about his deliberation over which ultra high end sports car he was going to buy. or maybe he already had. i couldn't follow it. i did glance over todd's head to see what a person who had six figures of purely disposable spending cash looked like and honestly, i think the man may want to consider something with a bench seat rather than a bucket. that aside, he and his friend were honest-to-god debating the pros and cons of brands that i've only heard mentioned by my children and the guys on top gear.
i didn't think twice of it after the game, until haley and i pulled up behind a sparkly, shiny red ferrari. i'm sure it's not the first one i've ever seen, but perhaps it's the closest i've ever been. i even took a picture to show the boys.
vroom.
and then, a few hours later, walking out of publix i see a car i've never seen before. not in person at least. i watch the breathtaking black sportscar pull into a parking spot far from the door and immediately i ready my phone to take a picture. it's a lotus.
vroom.
i'm fairly observant when it comes to cars, mostly because i'm looking at their tags for messages and their bumper stickers for solidarity, and i see a representative sample of expensive cars here in midtown. but i do not see ferraris and lotuses (loti?) on any sort of regular basis. and so i took note.
and my mind started racing (appropriate, no?) to land on the symbolism in this entertaining synchronicity..and it hasn't stopped. along the way, i considered the possibility that perhaps we won the megamillion last night. (because an overpriced sports car is definitely at the top of the boys' lottery wish list.) so, i dutifully went to my car (again, appropriate eh?) to retrieve my weekly lottery ticket. pulled up the numbers on my computer. and though we didn't win the jackpot, we did in fact match on the megaball (finally the dog comes through: $2!).
vroom!
speaking of cars, my car recently had the best type of transmission failure. the kind that requires towing, loaner cars, and the entire thing to be replaced. at 97000 miles with a 100000 mile warranty. indeed, the best kind of transmission repair.
so i'm still racing through possibilities.. wondering what my three brushes with automotive opulence signify...and i'll let you know when i get there.
d: more automotive abundance speeding my way.
b: i'm paying attention and picking up speed.
g: i splurged on the extended warranty.
todd has a friend over and the only thing that they've found to entertain themselves with is some abduction role play; to which i've now put a firm foot down upon. the sound of falling bodies, hysterical laughter, and the ensuing eruption of ferocious barking bedlam quickly alerted me that i needed to intervene. now they're playing some sort of game which involves a buzzer, but even that's preferable to the whispers of 'we need more duct tape' that i heard half an hour ago.
vroom.
on my last road trip with the boys they spent a good hour or two asking me 'this or that' questions about high priced sports cars. the questions went something like, 'bugati or aston martin?' to which i'd reply, 'umm, can i see pictures?' then they'd google up some photos on my phone and i'd carefully choose, 'the red one.'
my education on two seater cars that reach stupid high speeds in milliseconds and cost stupid high dollars hasn't been very thorough, i have to admit. but really, i haven't noticed. currently driving the sportiest car i've ever even considered, a mustang; i spend more time daydreaming about an outback station wagon with four doors and all wheel drive than a bigger engine and less seats.
but i do try to take note of things that show up in my life and today has been strangely synchronistic on this topic.
this morning at luke's soccer game todd and i were eavesdropping on the parents sitting on his other side. it was hard not to because in between the 'great shot max!' cheers, one of the fathers was waxing poetic about his deliberation over which ultra high end sports car he was going to buy. or maybe he already had. i couldn't follow it. i did glance over todd's head to see what a person who had six figures of purely disposable spending cash looked like and honestly, i think the man may want to consider something with a bench seat rather than a bucket. that aside, he and his friend were honest-to-god debating the pros and cons of brands that i've only heard mentioned by my children and the guys on top gear.
i didn't think twice of it after the game, until haley and i pulled up behind a sparkly, shiny red ferrari. i'm sure it's not the first one i've ever seen, but perhaps it's the closest i've ever been. i even took a picture to show the boys.
vroom.
and then, a few hours later, walking out of publix i see a car i've never seen before. not in person at least. i watch the breathtaking black sportscar pull into a parking spot far from the door and immediately i ready my phone to take a picture. it's a lotus.
vroom.
i'm fairly observant when it comes to cars, mostly because i'm looking at their tags for messages and their bumper stickers for solidarity, and i see a representative sample of expensive cars here in midtown. but i do not see ferraris and lotuses (loti?) on any sort of regular basis. and so i took note.
and my mind started racing (appropriate, no?) to land on the symbolism in this entertaining synchronicity..and it hasn't stopped. along the way, i considered the possibility that perhaps we won the megamillion last night. (because an overpriced sports car is definitely at the top of the boys' lottery wish list.) so, i dutifully went to my car (again, appropriate eh?) to retrieve my weekly lottery ticket. pulled up the numbers on my computer. and though we didn't win the jackpot, we did in fact match on the megaball (finally the dog comes through: $2!).
vroom!
speaking of cars, my car recently had the best type of transmission failure. the kind that requires towing, loaner cars, and the entire thing to be replaced. at 97000 miles with a 100000 mile warranty. indeed, the best kind of transmission repair.
so i'm still racing through possibilities.. wondering what my three brushes with automotive opulence signify...and i'll let you know when i get there.
d: more automotive abundance speeding my way.
b: i'm paying attention and picking up speed.
g: i splurged on the extended warranty.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
cushion
i'm decidedly awake today. and yesterday. and the day before, even. it may be drug induced, but regardless my eyes are wide open.
but, there are two sides to every coin. (and every forehand too, as i just discovered. more on that later.) and without the fog of sleepiness, in the light of day, i am noticing something else missing.
a cushion.
i generally am a pretty laid back person. i have my anxious moments, but they don't usually last long. i just don't hang out in a worried place much, as a rule. but today, in my amped up, more awake, and less padded place i'm having a hard time zoning out on the details that cause my heart to pound. i'm acutely, even obsessively, aware of what's causing the anxiety.
a cushion.
in my current employment situation my income not only varies in amount, but also in timing. the fluctuation necessitates a certain flexibility and ease, not to mention trust and creativity, when it comes to meeting obligations with fixed deadlines. or making plans for the future. but what really is necessary is more. more abundance. more overflow. more...
cushion.
this week i'm finding myself hyper-aware of the inadequacy of the single paycheck as a buffer. when my income is tethered to a person who is halfway around the globe, sleeping when i'm awake, it only adds the element of absurdity to the situation.
when we moved into the city this summer we did an overhaul on the furniture. purged the oversized pieces and replaced with items more appropriately sized to our dollhouse. i think i picked up new furniture for two rooms and sold even more than that. but the pieces we picked for the living room: not good. they have the same problem my bank account does. not enough depth.
cushion.
i'm resolved to correcting this. as soon as the money comes in it's being placed immediately under the mattress. because although i'm not sleeping in the daytime, i'd like to at night. and the only thing i need for peaceful sleep is that cushion...
d: stuffed mattress
b: i'm very awake
g: a resolution
but, there are two sides to every coin. (and every forehand too, as i just discovered. more on that later.) and without the fog of sleepiness, in the light of day, i am noticing something else missing.
a cushion.
i generally am a pretty laid back person. i have my anxious moments, but they don't usually last long. i just don't hang out in a worried place much, as a rule. but today, in my amped up, more awake, and less padded place i'm having a hard time zoning out on the details that cause my heart to pound. i'm acutely, even obsessively, aware of what's causing the anxiety.
a cushion.
in my current employment situation my income not only varies in amount, but also in timing. the fluctuation necessitates a certain flexibility and ease, not to mention trust and creativity, when it comes to meeting obligations with fixed deadlines. or making plans for the future. but what really is necessary is more. more abundance. more overflow. more...
cushion.
this week i'm finding myself hyper-aware of the inadequacy of the single paycheck as a buffer. when my income is tethered to a person who is halfway around the globe, sleeping when i'm awake, it only adds the element of absurdity to the situation.
when we moved into the city this summer we did an overhaul on the furniture. purged the oversized pieces and replaced with items more appropriately sized to our dollhouse. i think i picked up new furniture for two rooms and sold even more than that. but the pieces we picked for the living room: not good. they have the same problem my bank account does. not enough depth.
cushion.
i'm resolved to correcting this. as soon as the money comes in it's being placed immediately under the mattress. because although i'm not sleeping in the daytime, i'd like to at night. and the only thing i need for peaceful sleep is that cushion...
d: stuffed mattress
b: i'm very awake
g: a resolution
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
chicken
for most of my childhood and early adulthood i journaled religiously. and daily. i recorded everything that happened to me. no matter how trivial. no matter how mundane. i have hundreds and hundreds of pages of spiral notebooks, pages covered front and back, cover to cover detailing the conversations and nuances of ten years or more of my life.
and then at some point, i stopped. and what i realized quickly was that if it wasn't written down, i didn't remember it. that hasn't changed. i have coping mechanisms in place for the workplace (lots of lists, notes and emails), but even still the holes in my memory are a handicap at times. and the rest of my life? well, it's a blurry fog.
it makes me weary. or maybe that's the sleepiness making me weary. hard to tell which comes first.
chicken.
egg.
chicken.
though i don't remember much, i do remember writing about this earlier in the year. about my decision not to take the affordable amphetamine and my inability to take the cost prohibitive wakefulness drug. i wanted to take a more holistic approach. even a psychological approach.
and i've tried that. i really have. and here i am nine months after the sleep study and 30 years from my first memory of lapsed memory and i'm still sleepwalking.
i'm ready to wake up. i'm ready to wake the hell up.
i'm reconsidering what i'll do to make that happen. i don't know that i'll feel good about taking a drug daily. i won't be a proud pill popper. but when i consider the alternative, when i live the alternative, i think to myself, 'this may never end.' sure i can self-medicate myself awake for brief periods of time. i can write lists and journal compulsively. i can make charts and put rubber bands on my wrists. but at the end of the day..week..month..year, i probably won't remember even half of it.
i've always been a dreamer. i live more in the future than the past. i let go of the painful memories and forgive easily. that's the silver lining. but this is my life. i only get to live it once. and i want to remember it.
d: the luxury of nostalgia
b: i'm expert at coping mechanisms
g: a life i don't want to forget
and then at some point, i stopped. and what i realized quickly was that if it wasn't written down, i didn't remember it. that hasn't changed. i have coping mechanisms in place for the workplace (lots of lists, notes and emails), but even still the holes in my memory are a handicap at times. and the rest of my life? well, it's a blurry fog.
it makes me weary. or maybe that's the sleepiness making me weary. hard to tell which comes first.
chicken.
egg.
chicken.
though i don't remember much, i do remember writing about this earlier in the year. about my decision not to take the affordable amphetamine and my inability to take the cost prohibitive wakefulness drug. i wanted to take a more holistic approach. even a psychological approach.
and i've tried that. i really have. and here i am nine months after the sleep study and 30 years from my first memory of lapsed memory and i'm still sleepwalking.
i'm ready to wake up. i'm ready to wake the hell up.
i'm reconsidering what i'll do to make that happen. i don't know that i'll feel good about taking a drug daily. i won't be a proud pill popper. but when i consider the alternative, when i live the alternative, i think to myself, 'this may never end.' sure i can self-medicate myself awake for brief periods of time. i can write lists and journal compulsively. i can make charts and put rubber bands on my wrists. but at the end of the day..week..month..year, i probably won't remember even half of it.
i've always been a dreamer. i live more in the future than the past. i let go of the painful memories and forgive easily. that's the silver lining. but this is my life. i only get to live it once. and i want to remember it.
d: the luxury of nostalgia
b: i'm expert at coping mechanisms
g: a life i don't want to forget
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