reruns

it's been a scanty writing week for me as i've obsessively devoured the twilight books. finished the final one yesterday morning with both relief and remorse; because after all, i need my life back but i'm not embarrassed to admit my attachment to the characters. *shrug*

i also have been reluctant to write because i'm afraid this may sound a bit like the summer reruns. i've lost my new everyday earrings - the ones that replaced my last lost pair. mega impressed me with a heroic recovery from her spay on wednesday - jumping off the bed and running down the stairs to greet haley the very day of her surgery (to my dismay and protest, i might add). and as of tonight, my car is headed back to the shop and i'm soon to be driving another enterprise rental.

all in all, my life is on repeat.

losing things.
mega amazing me.
car-tastrophe*.

but it's officially the holiday season.. and i'm excited. i started christmas shopping over the holiday weekend and i shared a delicious and wonderful first thanksgiving with haley. tonight on hold with the insurance company i listened to orchestral christmas music and the neighbors are all decorating with colorful lights. i uncovered my wrapping paper stash and as soon as the tree is up next weekend, my favorite part of the season will commence - gift wrapping!

so, i'm choosing to say nevermind to the rerun and welcome to the holidays, because there's nothing i love more than christmas.

d: exit the rerun cycle
b: christmas decisions finalized!
g: injury free car-tastrophe.

*car-tastrophe of the day: on my way home from the city, the car in front of me hit the median, blew out a tire, and came to a too-abrupt stop. with traffic to my right and the aforementioned median to my left, i had nowhere to go but my brake pedal. sliding and holding my breath, mega and i crashed into the rear end of the stopped car. my car suffered the lion's share of the damage but my airbag did not deploy - thank god i disregarded that airbag recall- and so mega and i were untouched. the officer found no fault in the accident and my insurance company already has the repair and a rental in place for me.

d: the extra dents and dings repaired and repainted in the process!
b: it wasn't my fault! (my phone was safely stowed in the console, rather than my hand...)
g: haley immediately at my side before the report was even finalized.

selfish

it's a tuesday night and i just watched my one tv show of the week. usually it's a family thing. the boys and i settle in for our tuesday night biggest loser event each and every week. i typically have to lay on the floor holding the antenna just so, lest we lose the signal. the boys take turns running downstairs to retrieveacceptable snacks and generally eat continuously through the two-hour weight loss show. (that irony isn't lost on me.)

the boys left for thanksgiving with their father today; so this week i watched it alone. or rather in the company of four legged companions only. oliver and green replaced the boys, on the couch, and mega maintained her customary place of esteem, on my lap. i filled the commercial breaks with quick dips into the third volume of my twilight obsession.

the house is clean. no laundry piled on the couch. the kitchen sink empty. the quiet and stillness (aside from the pups' occasional bursts of energy) fill my entire three thousand square feet and ricochet.

while i was making my dinner, luke called. just to talk. mostly to see how my day went, what i did, what i was planning for the evening. no agenda. just reaching out. he said he loved me and he'd call tomorrow.

i wondered after we hung up if this is what it will be like when the nest is empty. i know this goes against the societal taboo, but i love it. i love my time alone. i love my time with only haley. i love the freedom of getting home when i want. eating when i want. reading at the table. writing when i want. structuring only myself.

selfish? absolutely.

i never hear my other parent-friends say it and when i've said it in their company i'm met with furrowed brows and concerned awkwardness. it seems like most moms are constantly playing the 'one-up' game of martyrdom. for parents being selfish is the most shameful character flaw on the market.

but i reject that notion. i think, no - i know - that there's a place in my life for me. and my identity is bigger than 'mother'. so i shrug off the shame. i feel no guilt for putting a high value on myself.

in fact, i attest that in this context a selfish mother is a better mother. because if i don't role model self care where will my children learn it?

d: a selfish holiday weekend.
b: i'm not a martyr.
g: puppies, baking and quiet ricocheting.

threes

so, as it turns out obsessive reading isn't good for writing. but it is very good for machine based cardio. i just learned that i can indeed keep my heart rate at 85% max for an hour and never even look at the clock, as long as i am careful to keep the sweat off my book. i've been a skeptic to this possibility until now. i admit it. i was wrong.

in other late-breaking news: i am pleased to announce that i've stopped losing things. for at least a couple of weeks now, i can't think of a single lost and found hunt that's ended empty-handed, even the initially elusive things.

there has been one thing though... with the discovery of my short term memory came the loss of my coordination. (not that i had much to begin with.) and apparently this issue is contagious. last sunday i fell on a tennis ball and sprained my ankle. (lightly sprained.. the swelling is gone and the bruising mostly gone now.) today i slipped and fell in a parking lot and pulled haley down with me. scraped both my knees and hit the back of my head. (not sure how i did the latter. we suspect it was haley's knee when we tumbled.) and then this evening, luke slammed his thumb in the car door.

three minor, but rather painful, accidents in five days, affecting three people. these things come in threes? i can only hope.

memory.
coordination.
what's next?

d: may it not be sanity
b: i broke away from my teen fiction to write
g: we're fully stocked on ibuprofen.

twilight

tonight the boys and i were initiated to twilight. we watched the first one on dvd and (write this down folks - it's a rare occasion) i actually stayed awake through the entire movie. shocking, but true. i did. i'd have to give it a mixed review. while it kept me awake and was entertaining and interesting and makes me want to see the new one; it made me say aloud several times, 'i wish i'd read the book first.'

not because i didn't know what was going on. that was pretty clear - we all followed without a bit of confusion (except why didn't the rest of the town notice the vamps' freakishly white faces? uh hello, i know it's seattle, but still...). i wished i'd taken the time to read the book first because i imagine there's so much more to the story that is left to the viewer's imagination. lots of dialogue- and action-free scenes that i'm certain the author had words to fill. and being a writer myself, i want to know what those words were. i do. nothing against the fine acting of the teenage stars, but their faces only carry the mystery so far.. i yearned for the inner dialogue.

so, with a reluctant heart (because there are simply too many books in my queue already) tomorrow i will go pick up the next twilight book. i'll lose myself in it for a few hours, (i imagine it's a super fast read), and then i can join the boys and haley in seeing new moon this weekend.

so much for taking down that wallpaper... maybe over thanksgiving.

d: if haley turns out to be a vampire, please don't let her suck the venom out. got it? k. thanks.
b: speed reading is my one secret talent. (see? already have it in place. go ahead. bite me.)
g: a film that kept me awake. now, let's hope it lets me sleep.

context

i made a list tonight.. a manifesting list. i made a list like this once before regarding 'my perfect job'.. and almost before the ink dried i was in the HR office hearing my position was being eliminated, the first step toward the perfect job that manifested in the process.

so tonight i made a list describing 'my perfect body.'

the puzzle is finally coming together for me, i think. i've spent the past many months trying to assimilate all the pieces. putting together what i know to be true and what i've experienced. checking with physicians and checking with measurements. increasing this and decreasing that. cleaning out all the complicating factors. and still when i had all the pieces on the table, it just wouldn't gel.

like a puzzle without the edges in place. clusters of understanding, but no context.

mind and body. mind and body. i read all these books about the mind-body relationship related to disease and illness and when it comes to my health and fitness, i forget the lesson.

so i made a list. i'm putting my mind in the right place about my body and knowing my body will follow. i'm putting my mind and my body on the same side as partners; rather than adversaries. i'm choosing to trust my body, to give it credit for the protection it's given me and to return that protection in kind.

i'm putting the four corners in place and securing the edges. things are starting to make sense.

d: my perfect body.
b: i have the pieces to work with.
g: my perfectly healthy body.

dinner

i'm just now realizing that the way i grew up is much more the exception than the rule. of course, i knew that in many regards, but i'm speaking specifically about family dinners. when i was a kid, we ate dinner at the table together. every night. and i don't mean it in a norman rockwell sort of way, necessarily. i just mean that we did. like it or not, pleasant or not, it was a ritual and it was a rule. (or was it an exception? hmm.)

now, as an adult and as a mother, having a dinner together as a family is something i find in my self-evaluation as a successful parent or a failure. i love to cook and i love to cook especially for my family, and whatever wandering stragglers we can fit at the table. (it's a small table, i'm sad to say. so we have to crowd around. but that's on my 'next house' list to rectify.) but at any rate, more nights than not we eat together, a meal i've prepared. and the not-nights, we still eat together as a family, but those are meals i haven't prepared. and fend-for-yourself nights only occur when there's a babysitter or i'm incapicitated and ill.

so, by my standards, i succeed in this criteria on the mom-assessment. most of the time.

enter: tonight's dinner.

well intentioned, but disaster nonetheless. i bought a whole chicken to roast.. and remembered using a recipe not long ago that called for a fruit inserted into the chicken before baking it. unfortunately, i couldn't remember either where i found the recipe, where i've stashed the recipe, or what the fruit was. that should have been the first sign that things were not to go as hoped.

i have a counter full of small tangerines, left over from last weekend's fruit fest, so i thought to myself, 'maybe it was an orange...' and stuffed one in there. but first, let me just say, this was the most unusual chicken i've ever seen. the breast side had very little meat on it. it had a nice arch and the legs nicely tucked alongside, but truly this beast wasn't well endowed.

but i greased her up anyway with some olive oil, stuffed her with an orange, sprinkled with seasonings and put her in my favorite roasting pan for what should have been a delicious meal, some time later.

much later.

after repeated checkings and repositionings and a steady nudge on the temperature of the oven, it occurred to me that maybe the bird was upside down. but no, the bottom side of the roasting chicken was flatter than a pancake. surely not the breast. but wait.. when i cut into it, there's definitely white meat there. lots of it. and on the breast side (or the back side??) there's nothing. must be something about those organic chickens, i mused.

i know this sounds like i'm a novice in the kitchen. like perhaps i've never cooked a bird before. but truly, i have witnesses. this bird was unlike any other chicken i've ever seen, bought or been served. ever. (nance, can i get an amen on that?)

after flipping it over, and another nudge on the thermostat, it finally reached an acceptable level of pink/white balance for me to comfortably serve. (of course, some had to be microwaved to appease my guests.. but i'm braver than most with raw poultry.)

it tasted only marginally better than it looked. which wasn't great. for the record, i don't think an orange was the right fruit.

and that's just the chicken part of the disaster.

i never serve white potatoes. i don't even know the difference between the ten different varieties of potatoes that aren't sweet. i generally just pick up the sweet potatoes and move on. but for a change, and as a concession to my children, i thought i'd make homemade mashed potatoes. i do know how to do this. and i did it just fine. but i refuse to put in two sticks of butter and a quarter cup of salt...and so they were rather potatoe-y. ie. bland.

the good news is that the boys will be happy to see sweet potatoes back on the menu.

everything else turned out fine. though there wasn't much else there to mess up. the failure of the white side of the plate overpowered the success of the colored side.

i think i mentioned once that stone soup was a favorite book of mine as a child. it came to mind as i cleaned the kitchen, so i threw the carcass of that mutant chicken into a pot of water and i'll have you know, it won't be a total wash.

and as for my mom-grade... misery loves company, you know. and perhaps these are the sorts of meals that will be more memorable in the long run anyway. (one of my clearest meal memories from childhood was when i negotiated to never have to eat liver again if i ate it that one time. clear as a bell.) so while i get an E for effort and an F for edibility, i give myself an A for making meal memories.

d: more memorable, edible, meals with my family
b: the soup will be fantastic. i just know it.
g: meals together, be they victorious or disastrous.

treats

i just caught mega humping one of her baby toys. her baby toys because she's still a baby herself! how can she possibly be doing such a thing? i tapped her flank and scolded her and she hung her head. is it possible she knows it's inappropriate? nothing would surprise me.

i've run out of the important, essential commands to teach her. so now we're doing frivolous things like laying out three treats in front of her and then sending her to them one at a time, in an order i specify. it's win/win to her - she gets three treats! and it's a power trip for me - i point and she eats! added benefit: it teaches her patience and self-control.

i personally could use more of both. maybe i should enroll in puppy class, for myself. after two mini-meltdowns, (ok, maybe not so mini), in as many days i am in need of probably an entire semester at obedience school. it seems that my thoughts and emotions and energy are at the whim of some other entity and certainly not in line with my higher thinking. i call that entity: hormones.

i'm trying to get a grasp on what may be misaligned in my hormonal circuitry; met an endocrinologist, am reading and studying possibilities, and am getting every toxin out of my life that's within reach. keeping the system as pure as possible. and yet... it feels as though a nuclear reactor melts in my head when i get this way and nothing can contain it.

i read in a book recently, 'schedule around your pms..' as in, know when it's coming and don't make any critical decisions during that time. wouldn't that be nice? it would be nice enough to know when it's coming, ie have any semblance of regularity; but being able to put the rest of my life on hold while my estrogen takes over would simply be divine.

perhaps i could put a little escape hatch in my garage. i feel the temperature rising in the reactor and i simply could jump through the hatch and slide down a tunnel to a get-away vehicle, think batmobile, that takes me somewhere free of responsibility and free of... myself. until i come back to what's normal for me, at least. then i could reemerge in my family, in my life. all put back together and refreshed. nobody else the worse for the wear.

sigh

unfortunately under the piles of paint cans and the strewn and broken bicycle bits my garage holds no escape hatch. no tunnels to freedom here. and so, tonight i'm cuddled into bed, mega under my arm, working on a spreadsheet for my day job, and trying to buffer my contact with the outside world by at least a layer of technology; as i've heard that those mushroom clouds can be quite deadly.

mega just sighed in her sleep. i imagine she's dreaming of a row of treats laid out before her. (not the quasi-sexual experience she just had with her baby toy)

hmm, perhaps a row of treats is the answer i'm looking for.

d: patience and self-control.. with and of myself.
b: despite a failed first attempt, second try success at my daily workout.
g: a family and partner that love me..and bring me treats, right when i need them.